"Genuinely" speaking..Yeah, let's talk about this for a minute.
Lately, I've been running into loads of gents, who when they speak to me, use terms that I have always associated with someone that you have been in a relationship with for a period of time.
It apparently is not so uncommon, and possibly even acceptable? (Yes I find that quite curious as well) to speak to a woman you barely know and call her "Hun, Sweetie, Cutie, Baby." and the like.
I personally find it to be patronizing, for the simple fact that YOU ,quite possibly, have absolutely NO IDEA who I am. How do you suddenly meet me one day and the next act like we've known each other for years?
Of course, I have a plethora of my own theories about this; some of them a slight bit Freudian, others not so much. Let's have a look at a few.
1. Lack of respect - There are unfortunately so many men who just have no respect for women. But not just men, people who have no respect for other people. It's heart breaking at best.
2. No clue - This literally piggy backs on my first response; guys (and gals) get a clue. There are some terribly fabulous people on this planet. Get to know someone, give a little of yourself, listen to the other person. Seriously take interest in someone for something other than their outward beauty.
3. So used to calling their wives "Hun, Sweetie, Cutie or Baby." It just sort of pops out in conversation. That should be a complete 'crimson colored triangle' (see my previous Rant on 'red flags')
4. They can't remember your name. - Self explanatory...and at least my 'rant' has ended with a cool song :)
Cheers!!! Til the next rant or adventure .......
Stay tuned for more 'Relationship Ninja" blogging.
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Sunday 28 July 2013
Sunday 21 July 2013
Salad and a New Relationship -Vol 1
(cooking with the Relationship Ninja) vol 1
I'd like to introduce my friend Nina, she's a cooking wiz and has just as much information to offer in the realm of relationships as she does about food and cooking. As a matter of fact she intertwines the two quite nicely.
I've known Nina so long, she's become family. When we started cooking together, quite some time ago, a natural topic of conversation was about our lives, love, family and relationships. People who cook with their loved ones will completely understand what I mean here.
There's an amazing bond that comes from cooking together. Maybe it's the art of creating something wonderful and delicious together, or maybe it's as simple as spending time together; for me it's a culmination of both.
Nina became the "Relationship Ninja" to me, about six months after we met. Her 'ninja like' skills are as equal in relationship advice as her 'ninja like' culinary skills are in the kitchen. Be advised that Nina has been married for over 40 years (she won't let me say exactly how long), and has been cooking food with family much longer than that.
She swears that every relationship has a partner food that can relate to any situation. And through the years she has shared her wealth of information. One that is no match for even the best marriage counselors... just saying.
My ninja has asked that I make it very clear that she in no way advocates emotional eating binges, or just macking on comfort food to soothe your sorrows away. She always says, "Just cause you cook it, don't mean you gotta eat it." Side note: She does not waste food either. Someone always eats what she cooks.
Today we are building a simple salad. According to the Relationship Ninja, this salad relates closely to a new relationship...
"Building a solid relationship," she says "is like the foundation of a good salad." She carefully removes one head of lettuce and a bag from the bottom drawer of her fridge. They are romaine and fresh baby spinach. She explains that both have many vitamins and minerals. "Relatively speaking" she adds, as she chops the lettuce, "a good foundation in the relationship are truths and values. Just as important as putting good vitamins and minerals into your body."
She tosses the chopped romaine in the bowl and says "truths" then tops it with a bunch of fresh spinach, mixes them quickly and says "and values," then smiles at me. "Building a relationship based simply on sex is like using ice berg lettuce for the base of a salad...."
"Why?" I wanna know.
The ninja tells me "Ice berg is mostly water. Which means it may be satisfying for the moment, but you get nothing from it once the water is used up."
We add cucumbers, tomato, colored bell peppers, raisins and walnuts. It's what my ninja friend calls "the fun stuff, after a good foundation."Then we top it with a favorite dressing (mine is a fig & walnut balsamic vinaigrette) and voila! LUNCH.
Read More Sangster Here :)
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The Relationship Ninja Vol 2 - Bread & Love
The Relationship Ninja Vol 3 - Famil y & A Breakfast Casserole
The Relationship Ninja Vol 4 Part 1 - Marriage
The Relationship Ninja Vol 4 Part 2 - Marriage
The Relationship Ninja Vol 5 - Equally Yolked
The Relationship Ninja Vol 6 - Salmon Ceviche & Rebound Sex
The Relationship Ninja Vol 7 - Curing Olives
Keep the Blog alive
I'd like to introduce my friend Nina, she's a cooking wiz and has just as much information to offer in the realm of relationships as she does about food and cooking. As a matter of fact she intertwines the two quite nicely.
I've known Nina so long, she's become family. When we started cooking together, quite some time ago, a natural topic of conversation was about our lives, love, family and relationships. People who cook with their loved ones will completely understand what I mean here.
There's an amazing bond that comes from cooking together. Maybe it's the art of creating something wonderful and delicious together, or maybe it's as simple as spending time together; for me it's a culmination of both.
Nina became the "Relationship Ninja" to me, about six months after we met. Her 'ninja like' skills are as equal in relationship advice as her 'ninja like' culinary skills are in the kitchen. Be advised that Nina has been married for over 40 years (she won't let me say exactly how long), and has been cooking food with family much longer than that.
She swears that every relationship has a partner food that can relate to any situation. And through the years she has shared her wealth of information. One that is no match for even the best marriage counselors... just saying.
My ninja has asked that I make it very clear that she in no way advocates emotional eating binges, or just macking on comfort food to soothe your sorrows away. She always says, "Just cause you cook it, don't mean you gotta eat it." Side note: She does not waste food either. Someone always eats what she cooks.
Today we are building a simple salad. According to the Relationship Ninja, this salad relates closely to a new relationship...
"Building a solid relationship," she says "is like the foundation of a good salad." She carefully removes one head of lettuce and a bag from the bottom drawer of her fridge. They are romaine and fresh baby spinach. She explains that both have many vitamins and minerals. "Relatively speaking" she adds, as she chops the lettuce, "a good foundation in the relationship are truths and values. Just as important as putting good vitamins and minerals into your body."
She tosses the chopped romaine in the bowl and says "truths" then tops it with a bunch of fresh spinach, mixes them quickly and says "and values," then smiles at me. "Building a relationship based simply on sex is like using ice berg lettuce for the base of a salad...."
"Why?" I wanna know.
The ninja tells me "Ice berg is mostly water. Which means it may be satisfying for the moment, but you get nothing from it once the water is used up."
We add cucumbers, tomato, colored bell peppers, raisins and walnuts. It's what my ninja friend calls "the fun stuff, after a good foundation."Then we top it with a favorite dressing (mine is a fig & walnut balsamic vinaigrette) and voila! LUNCH.
Read More Sangster Here :)
Copyright 2014 - 2016 Noelle Sangster/Sangster Entertainment LLC - All rights reserved
Noelle Sangster on Amazon
The Relationship Ninja Vol 2 - Bread & Love
The Relationship Ninja Vol 3 - Famil y & A Breakfast Casserole
The Relationship Ninja Vol 4 Part 1 - Marriage
The Relationship Ninja Vol 4 Part 2 - Marriage
The Relationship Ninja Vol 5 - Equally Yolked
The Relationship Ninja Vol 6 - Salmon Ceviche & Rebound Sex
The Relationship Ninja Vol 7 - Curing Olives
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Sunday 7 July 2013
A Saturday Adventure in South Phoenix
Links are always in Yellow
Once upon a time...well okay.....a few weeks ago......
It is a gorgeous Saturday morning. It is early enough both in the season and in the morning, that it's not yet blazing hot. I'm going for a horseback ride on South Mountain at the Ponderosa Stables Like many of you, when I think of horseback riding... I think of wide open desert spaces, or beautiful wooded trails far away from the city, with streams of cool water bubbling effortlessly over river rocks....not here.
The drive to the Ponderosa Stables is through so much city and concrete you wonder how there could possibly be any kind of wildlife (other than the kind you don't want to run into on a Friday night..lol).
I find my destination at the absolute end of Central Avenue. If the road didn't curve I would have driven straight into South Mountain. This stable has been hosting trail rides on South Mountain for about 40 years.
I arrive about 30 minutes prior to my scheduled ride and watch as riders and trail guides are coming in from their early morning rides.
Most of them are obviously tourists; I can tell because they are wearing shorts and running shoes (and their cameras give them away); improper attire for a horseback ride, let alone one through desert vegetation where there are venomous critters.
The Cowboy that runs Ponderosa is a Massachusetts Cowboy? I know, right? That's exactly what I thought. But let's be honest, as we learned from the Marlboro Man; a Cowboy is such because of his heart, not his state of residence.
It's a great ride for the scenery and South Mountain is a site you absolutely have to see while in Phoenix.
The Ponderosa does offer more rides that include a breakfast ride and a steak dinner ride. It's a great way to get out and see some of the natural desert areas of Phoenix. The prices are reasonable, and the company is good. The trail cowboys and cowgirls work for tips, so please be generous.
Bring some sort of hat , bring water, and wear cowboy boots if you have them. Remember: we are a guest in nature's domain, please use manners. Sun poisoning is not fun :( and I can't imagine rattlesnake bites are either.
Cheers, until the next adventure!!!
Copyright 2013-2016 - Noelle Sangster/Sangster Entertainment LLC - All rights reserved
Keep the Blog Alive
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Once upon a time...well okay.....a few weeks ago......
It is a gorgeous Saturday morning. It is early enough both in the season and in the morning, that it's not yet blazing hot. I'm going for a horseback ride on South Mountain at the Ponderosa Stables Like many of you, when I think of horseback riding... I think of wide open desert spaces, or beautiful wooded trails far away from the city, with streams of cool water bubbling effortlessly over river rocks....not here.
The drive to the Ponderosa Stables is through so much city and concrete you wonder how there could possibly be any kind of wildlife (other than the kind you don't want to run into on a Friday night..lol).
I find my destination at the absolute end of Central Avenue. If the road didn't curve I would have driven straight into South Mountain. This stable has been hosting trail rides on South Mountain for about 40 years.
I arrive about 30 minutes prior to my scheduled ride and watch as riders and trail guides are coming in from their early morning rides.
Most of them are obviously tourists; I can tell because they are wearing shorts and running shoes (and their cameras give them away); improper attire for a horseback ride, let alone one through desert vegetation where there are venomous critters.
The Cowboy that runs Ponderosa is a Massachusetts Cowboy? I know, right? That's exactly what I thought. But let's be honest, as we learned from the Marlboro Man; a Cowboy is such because of his heart, not his state of residence.
It's a great ride for the scenery and South Mountain is a site you absolutely have to see while in Phoenix.
The Ponderosa does offer more rides that include a breakfast ride and a steak dinner ride. It's a great way to get out and see some of the natural desert areas of Phoenix. The prices are reasonable, and the company is good. The trail cowboys and cowgirls work for tips, so please be generous.
Bring some sort of hat , bring water, and wear cowboy boots if you have them. Remember: we are a guest in nature's domain, please use manners. Sun poisoning is not fun :( and I can't imagine rattlesnake bites are either.
Cheers, until the next adventure!!!
Copyright 2013-2016 - Noelle Sangster/Sangster Entertainment LLC - All rights reserved
Keep the Blog Alive
Noelle Sangster on Amazon
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