Sunday 14 June 2015

The Marlboro Man - Opinions

Sometimes we are overly obsessed with pleasing people or living up to their standards or expectations. My first experience with this thought was delivered to me from a man I look up to on every level. Sometimes the simplest words, can make the biggest impact on you.       

Most of you have "met" the Marlboro Man through me at some point, and know that he is one of my ultimate heroes. He is the one who gave me direction in my life, when I really had none and was quite clueless. If we could pick our own relatives, I'd pick him more than once! 
      Nick (the Marlboro Man) is a striking force of nature. He's one of those men that you hope will live until they are a hundred and twenty just so you can listen to their advice and learn from them, 
       He is the Shi Fu of cowboys, all things cowboy, and represents his life lived here on earth as a cowboy. For those who have never met a real cowboy, think John Wayne, direct, right as rain, and comfortable in his own skin. 
      There are four of us. Marlboro Man, me, Wade and his brother Jesse. We are in Tombstone, playing cards. It's 2 a.m. and no one has won the pot yet. Marlboro Man lays those piercing blue eyes on me, and with perfect clarity, let's me know I am the target of something he is about to say. He glances at his cards for a second and pulls one from his hand, as he lays it face down on the table and says 
     "You look distant, Cupcake, what's the skinny?" He winks at Wade. Wade smiles and Jesse chuckles into his arm. Marlboro Man shoots them a glare and they immediately settle into a hush. I watch the smoke from his cigarette nub rise and engulf his face, his eyes never leave me. He's waiting for an answer.
     "I've been thinking about what I wanna be when I 'grow' up. If I feel like growing up that is." Wade chuckles. It seems as if he knows what's coming next.
     "Who says you gotta do anything at all?" The old cowboy asks.
     "Unwritten societal expectation." I say, as if I know something.
     He lays his card hand face down on the table, snubs out the cigarette, draws another from the pack in shirt pocket, lights it, sits back in his chair. Wade fills the shot glass in front of MM with Jack Daniels. They all look at me and then Marlboro Man leans in, puts his elbows on the table, slams the shot and says
     "Opinions are like Assholes and drunk relatives, everyone has one. You don't need anyone's approval to do or be anything, Cupcake." He pauses, sits back in the chair, changes his mind, and then leans in again. “If you listen to what everyone else wants, you'll find yourself always chasing your tail and gettin' nothin' done; Or worse trying to make everyone else happy. That's not your job. You got one life, one job, yours. What makes you happy? What things do you wanna do, be, or have? At the end of this life, the only ones you gotta answer to is yourself and God." He winks at me, and then flips over his hand to reveal a full house of Aces over kings.



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